Thoughts on love???

[ryan]

For those of us who haven't seen the movie, what kind of love do you speak of?

[Ashley]

Originally Posted by Liam

Age has nothing to do with it.
Sure, a 12 year old isnt likely to have any idea about it, but honestly, whats the difference between being 17 and 200 days old and 18 and 1 day old? (Anyone who gives me a figure in days gets a fucking smack in the mouth).

3984 hours difference... you never said anything about hours.

I agree. I had my heart crushed by a guy when I was 16, I feel I did love him. Age has nothing to do with it. It's the feelings, emotions can overpower age.
In the Notebook I've read a lot about the movie, it seems like it's a true love type deal. A Love so strong you'd wait for the other person for years becasue you know that's your one true love.
It's like A Walk to Remember, they were young but madly in love, so in love that Landon would do anything for Jaime, even though he knows he will lose her. Making all her wishes come true... ::goes off into a dream state:: They were like.. 17 or 18 I believe in the movie. Nicholas Sparks writes all those extremely romantic movie that makes me want to have someone like that.
My point is, love knows no age.

[Jacoby]

Originally Posted by Hazzle

I mean I know for a fact that Jacoby here told me he wouldn't leave the love of his life even if Natalie Portman turned up on his doorstep.

It's true

Originally Posted by Ashley

My point is, love knows no age.

Thank you.
I'm a firm believer that love is blind, even to age.

[MeggieHoops]

I believe in love more than anything else, no matter how old you are. I also believe in love at first site.

I met a guy when I was in 6th grade and we've had our ups and downs and lefts and rights for the past 8 years, but we always find our way back to each other. From that first moment when I met him, I knew he was the one. And we aren't even together right now...but I still love him, and I know he loves me...we just can't do the relationship thing at the moment. But I honestly believe that I'll end up with him.

[Hazzle]

Originally Posted by Pygmalion

Well even if I WANTED to I couldn't marry my highschool sweetheart since its illegal for same-sex couples to marry in the godforsaken hole of a continent that is Australia, so according to our government I can't be in love. Legally.

Disturbing how narrow minded governments are, isn't it?

Originally Posted by Kelsey

I don't think you need to be a certain age to be in love - it's not like you just turn 18 and something clicks..."I'm 18 so now when I say 'I love you' it's automatically true.'" I've been in a few relationships, but I've been in (absolutely, positively) love once, and I'm 17. I don't think age matters at any time during life.

I agree...age really has nothing to do with it...

Originally Posted by Kelsey

I guess different people have different experiences.

Truth.

Originally Posted by Liam

Age has nothing to do with it.

Sure, a 12 year old isnt likely to have any idea about it, but honestly, whats the difference between being 17 and 200 days old and 18 and 1 day old? (Anyone who gives me a figure in days gets a fucking smack in the mouth).

Oh c'mon, you can't ask a question like that and expect me to leave it...it's (assuming there's no leap year involved) 166 days...if it's a leap year 167

The whole thing about suddenly being entirely mature at age 18 is a crock.

Yup.

Well...you are one of the few I told about my experience mate...and you know thats true about me. Thats what love does.

I was just trying to make a funny mate...yeah...I know exactly what you mean...that one person becomes the single most important person in the world...wait...wtf am I doing? I'm not supposed to be soppy

In the Notebook I've read a lot about the movie, it seems like it's a true love type deal. A Love so strong you'd wait for the other person for years becasue you know that's your one true love.

Meh...Notebook Schmotebook...true love? Pfffft...

[Pygmalion]

I agree. There's only lust.

[Hazzle]

Originally Posted by Pygmalion

I agree. There's only lust.

So true...maybe we should have a thread on "thoughts on lust". Oooer...actually that sounds like a spiffeh idea...KKW porn

[Sarah]

This is an interesting topic. But what I figure is this, most young people who believe they are in love, really aren't! Last year I could have sworn I was in love, I was infatuated with someone. I honestly believed I would love them forever. There was no one else for me, oh no.

That started around 2002. It's now July 2004 and I can't even stand to think about him. Some great love that turned out to be.

I'm young, I'm naive, I have crushes. And so do most other 17 year olds.

[apoggy]

Originally Posted by Hazzle

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[Hazzle]

Originally Posted by apoggy

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No trolls, boys or men

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[apoggy]

Posting your naked pic would be against my rules and therefore just plain wrong. Don't cross me mister!

[acliff]

On the topic of love and maturity:
Emotional maturity is entirely relative. Based on genetic and real world factors, requires experience. Unfortunately it seems that Emotional maturity is gained by having bad experiences, making you hurt for what you've lost.

In my opinion thats what distinguishes lust, love and just really really liking someone. Its how you feel when you lose them. Then you can guage for yourself what level it takes for you to be in love.

Which is why I don't believe love can really happen at a young age. You might go through the motions, but how would you know if its the real thing?
Bear in mind, in many cultures in the past, they married children at the age of 12-13. Partially due to the expected life span, but also so they could grow into love. They may have been less civilised, but divorce rates can't be as high as they are now... :P

[DragonRat]

In all my years of writing poetry and pining over girls, it seems to me that I should have some understanding about the concept known as 'love'. Alas, I do not. For me, it is more infatuation and lust than anything else. Yet, that does not stop people of my age or younger to confess their undying love for another, to profess something more than what I believe to be mere childhood crushes. Perhaps I've grown a bit jaded, and yes, years ago, I would have spouted out the word 'love' like a geyser. (I assume that we talk more about what C.S. Lewis described as 'Eros', as compared to the other three loves.)

Every season I seem to have a crush, and sometimes I have written poems (sometimes expositions). Lately, I do not use the word 'love' to describe how I feel for them. Maybe I believe I am not old enough. Yet, that is only half-truth. I believe that those who are young of age, yet understand what it means to love, can truly be in love. Most children do not have a clear understanding of Eros: they love their parents; they love their classmates; they love their teachers, etc. It is when one can look at another and know something between the two of them, that only they two know, and can never express through sleight of speech.

I speak with the romanticized speech of a poet of countless love poems. Yet, it is not love I feel when I speak about celebrities or this girl or that. It is a longing, to find out if love can exist. It is a wish and hope, that love may one day bloom between me and another. To end this post, I'll provide an excerpt from my journal:

I will miss her – everything about her. In time, I may learn more about her, and I may learn to dislike things that she does, or things that she is. But, to look upon that night and wonder where I was, I was somewhere that I wanted to be. On two occasions, I saw lights reflecting upon bodies of water, and imagining that somehow, she could be the one to see them with me. The reflections floated along the surface, like fearsome silver daggers, swaying perpendicular to the waves; they neither struggled, nor did they dictate the pace. They simply were there, and they never disappeared.

[Elijahfan]

Originally Posted by ryan

For those of us who haven't seen the movie, what kind of love do you speak of?

endless love i think. (kidman) ada requests inman (law) to return to her from the war in a letter and he just gets up and leaves. he travels for tons of miles just to get back to her even though they're killing deserters of the war. i think it's amazing because they realize they dont even know each other, they've only seen each other about 4 times, yet they love each other so much. after 3 years of seperation because of the civil war, they still think about each other everyday.

it's a slow movie but i like it alot, atleast it's not as long as the english patient (same director)

note on the nicolas sparks stuff, i think it's sorta unrealistic, not to say that cold mountain is realistic either, but i think it's more sutle and just comtimplating on their love for one another then crazy obsticles of "class". i think the notebook is major heart-wrenching-soap-opera stuff, but hell maybe i'm just over that phase now. and yes i read his other book, a walk to remember, and cried from reading it which now i feel really pathetic about.

[Ashley]

Cold Mountain was a good movie. The love was a bit odd though being as they knew each other for such a short amount of time and then were separated. That seemed more lust than love now that I think back on it. I saw it in December.. but yeah... I'd go with lust on that as they didn't know each other that well but ah well, made for a good movie. I'm getting off track though.
I have some of the same thoughts on the word "love" as our buddy DR does. People throw it around like nothing. But it's a very powerful word. One that really has no set meaning. I don't throw it around like I used to. I think long and hard before I seriously say I love someone.
I don't think this post really said anything....

[Elijahfan]

Originally Posted by Ashley

I have some of the same thoughts on the word "love" as our buddy DR does. People throw it around like nothing. But it's a very powerful word. One that really has no set meaning. I don't throw it around like I used to. I think long and hard before I seriously say I love someone.

i totally agree about using the word love, but i seriously think that young people, or basically just the people at my school, shouldnt be using it. i believe in love at first sight but my classmates use the word just after seeing someone for the first time, thinking their "hot", which is completely not the definition, even with no set definition, of love. it's lust! and i hate it...and i stress the word hate, which is not a word that should be thrown around either, but they're so immature, or maybe it's just teenage puberty...either way i annoys me beyond belief.

oh and by the way, not really relavent but i'm watching all the seasons of sex and the city this summer. now that is a real guide/help/whatever to deciphering love and relationships.

[keira loves lipgloss]

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[Hazzle]

Originally Posted by Ashley

I have some of the same thoughts on the word "love" as our buddy DR does. People throw it around like nothing. But it's a very powerful word. One that really has no set meaning. I don't throw it around like I used to. I think long and hard before I seriously say I love someone.
I don't think this post really said anything....

Think you've said all that needs to be said in just that one paragraph...very poignant.

[Ashlyn]

Anyone can love, but the type of love (if you will) varies for different people and ages - for example a 5 year old loves his parents, but in a different way to a couple who have been married 40 years.
You can know what love is at any age, but your idea of love will change with age. Like what others have already said, a highschool couple can be in love and grow up and get married, but the way they love each other will change a lot with time.
It's unfair for an adult to say teenagers can't be in love, in fact, it's unfair for anyone to tell someone else if they're in love or not. You weren't in love or mature enough to know what love was at 17, doesn't mean it can't happen to others. It comes down to the old 'everyone is different' thing.
I don't think anyone can really define what love is until they've experienced it. That doesn't mean you have to get your heart broken to know love, but you know what it is when you've experienced it. I love my family and my friends, but I haven't been 'in love' with anyone. That's not saying I'm too young to be in love, I just know that I haven't been in love, it's one of those things that you just know when it happens to you.

[keira loves lipgloss]

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