what type of guy is a good guy

[Kelsey]

I definitely don't want to be waited on. I don't feel I need to be with anyone and, call it shallow, if I had to choose between a successful career that required hard work and most of my time, or a good relationship, I would choose the career. I've always been a pretty independant person and I don't need to be waited on hand and foot. To me, that shows weakness.

[barrington]

I would postulate that one needs to show some degree of weakness and dependence to endure a successful relationship. If you do not lower some defences and become a little interdependent with a potential partner, you will be merely relegated to the status of Cast Iron Bitch, ensuring that no man will ever touch you.

There's loads of hard-nosed career women that are just like this. They have high-powered, well-paid jobs in the city. But they will all retire sad and lonely.

[CollisionStar]

Oh fun...

For anyone who doesn't know, I'm a chick. I would like to say that I don't like being said to be dependent, independent, high maintenence, waited on, chased after, etc. I ecspecially don't like being compared to cheese by 14 year olds.

On the other hand, I find that, to me, I would be fine in fitting into sterotypical "get married, be a housewife". It appeals to me in some ways. So does the alternative. What I really mean to say is that grouping it together is hard since too many people feel too many different ways.

I really hope this made sense. I don't think I even knew what I was saying.

[Dr.No]

Well Ladies i fill all those qualities and am curently availlable looks like its your lucky day

[Renegade]

Originally Posted by Dr.No

Well Ladies i fill all those qualities and am curently availlable looks like its your lucky day

I presume one of those qualities includes desperation .

[ryan]

Originally Posted by Renegade

I presume one of those qualities includes desperation .

or arrogance.

[gracie]

er ideal- really tall like 6'4, slender. now you ask a good guy- a good guy will be there to help you when you screw up, he wont mess with your head or press you for sex when ur not in the mood, he might be gay. a guy id go for is usually dominant, funny/sarcastic, intelligent but not a sweet guy.

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by barrington

I adore the delicious hypocracy of it all.

1. Woman don't want a guy who's all mushy, tells them he loves her every second of the day, does kind things regularly, hangs around and does stuff for them. They want to be independent young ladies.
They don't want to be waited on hand and foot.

2. Women do want a guy who has a car to drive them places, a house to put them up for free and look after them in and money to take them out and buy them things.
They DO want to be waited on hand and foot.


Women are designed to be irrational and make no sense. That's just the way it is.

It keeps us mysterious that way.

Except I don't wanna be waited on hand and foot. I'll pay the tab at dinner every once in a while and volunteer to drive.

In no way should a relationship contain one person giving and giving and the other just receiving.

A married couple I know are having problems because they are in financial struggle. The wife complains that her husband needs a better job because there isn't enough money to support them which is why they and their 3 yr old daughter are moving into an apartment. She doesn't have a job. The biggest hypocrisy I've ever known.

A relationship that works is 50-50.

[Dr.No]

Its actually not called arrogance i'd call it being confident, your not gonna get anything done if your not confident in yourself there buddy

[acliff]

Originally Posted by Dr.No

Its actually not called arrogance i'd call it being confident, your not gonna get anything done if your not confident in yourself there buddy

The difference between arrogance and confidence is entirely up to others to decide there buddy. You can state that you're confident, but its whether the people who talk to you think you're arrogant or not that counts.

What people tend to look for in their prospective partners is at least partially dependant on their parent's marital status. If they're happy, you may look for someone like your parents (sick as it sounds) or someone exciting, if you feel your parents are boring. If you're parents are divorced, or deceased that can also add at the very least subconcious changes to the things you look for.

[Hazzle]

Aye...there's also a theory that people actually look for partners that remind them of one of their parents...boys for women like their mothers, women for men like their fathers...not sure if any studies have been done into homosexual people and whether, for example, a gay man seeks a partner like his mother or his father...I'd guess mother...especially as even in this day and age many fathers can't accept that their sons are gay...<shrugs> curious issue.

[MarkOB]

Originally Posted by Kelsey

I definitely don't want to be waited on. I don't feel I need to be with anyone and, call it shallow, if I had to choose between a successful career that required hard work and most of my time, or a good relationship, I would choose the career. I've always been a pretty independant person and I don't need to be waited on hand and foot. To me, that shows weakness.

Do you mean that it shows weakness in yourself or weakness in the guy?

Originally Posted by acliff

Obviously at the age of 14, you have yet to experience what would happen if you told a girl she tastes like cheese.

Now that is a good point! Why the heck didn't I recognise that?!

OH, how stupid I am!!

[Liam]

Fucking truth.

[Hazzle]

Originally Posted by Liam

Fucking truth.

What is? You're going to have to stop posting with a Guinness in hand...ok?

[Kelsey]

I think it shows weakness when someone always feels they always need to be with someone. Like J. Lo. She obviously knows what she's doing business-wise, but then she goes off and marries every guy in that industry, and people don't think as highly of her because of it. Maybe weakness was the wrong word. I just would rather have a successful career than a successful relationship. I would love to have a successful relationship, don't get me wrong, it's just not my first priority.

[Vertical Vortex]

Originally Posted by DefyingGravity

I'm gonna make a list of what I want in a guy.


Physicality:

1. Older
2. Taller(than me, at least)
3. Strong jaw
4. Big hands
5. Cute ears

Misc:

1. Single
2. Outgoing
3. Talented
4. Can play an instrument(preferably guitar)
5. Believes in something/knows where he's going

HAH! thats 70% me!
wanna date?

edit: more like 80/85%!

[Hazzle]

Ahhh...transatlantic love...

[DefyingGravity]

Sorry Vertical Vortex, the only thing that can ever be between us is an ocean.

[Narzys]

Originally Posted by Mandy

1. Don't have a car
2. Live with their parents
3. Say "no" to partying (What's with that)
4. Hate their parents
5. Don't have a job

If you're not in any of those numbers, you're game

Why???

That would be very difficult !!!
Think one of MY rules are: ... no rules please

[kilyncw]

well i started this thread to see if i was doing something wrong, and i found that holy shit there are a lot of shallow ppl. haha.

honestly i do feel more comfortable about being the way i am with my gf. trust me sweetness isn't necessarily predictible. the only downfall is i constantly have to find ways to out do myself, and its getting hard haha.

i have talked to some girls about what to do for her bday and they're response was "buy her flowers with a really nice note" haha i do that because it is tuesday not for her bday. i feel bad for the girls that don't have someone that cares enough about them to treat the way some deserve.

i have an idea for what to do for her birthday, well i am a strong believer that a true gift can't be bought, but made. bought things are nice just not that meaningful. i am working on a gift i call "10 things i love about you", yeah i know i am working on the title i have a month so. but i think she will really love it.
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