Girls - What Don't You Like on Guys?

[gracie]

I think men and women all share the same problems. Lately, I've been feeling more and more that there is actually very little diffrence between men and women in relation to the way we treat people. People treat others like shit because we're all essentially unhappy and don't know how to make ourselves happy. Ultimately we blame those around us instead of ourselves and make our friends, partners and lovers feel like shit. Which will really never work out in the end. If we could all just sit down and really think about what would make us happy, genuinely happy and then either accept that we will never have it or change our lives to acheive happiness- a lot of problems in relationships (friendships or otherwise) would be fixed.
As for men generally, I enjoy them physically. I dont like overweight men or thin penises. But thats just physical. I dont like people who are self-important, assholes, selfish or hypocritical. Probably I destest these characteristics in others because I'm aware that i have those same tendencies.

[CollisionStar]

I'm not the person to know what I do and don't like. I'm more 'lost' than Matthew Fox in Hawaii....>.>

Anyway, all I really know is I don't like the fact that guys tend to not want to be experimental. Not in the sexual sense, but with their clothing or general appearance.

The biggest advice I give to my guy buds is "Act Gay". I know it doesn't apply to all girls, but I know far too many who would love that.

yeah i usually dont have a problem with guys because i never take our relationship as seriously as he does. i usually pick a guy less attractive then me, because it seems like he cares more about me, and he'll do stuff i tell him to do. i actually got my ex to wear tighter pants (but hey he did wear baggy ones) and wax his eyebrows ( i hate hairy eyebrows) and i think i made him look hotter. also the advantage of picking a less hot guy (i dont mean ugly, just less than you) is they dont say sexist stuff or comments against chicks because im a feminist and i hate stuff like that. the point is ladies, youll have a better time.

also i want to say, i hate guys with:
-baggy pants (not tight, just more fitted)
-hairy eyebrows
-those stupid goatees
-fauxhawks (hey i love punk, just that look says poser)
-earrings
-bodyodor
-sweat (i sweat cuz i run x-country, so one of us has to smell good)
-overdoing the cologne
-sexist attitudes
-REALLY clingy attitudes
-big biceps or pecks, althought i love strongs abs and legs

[calereneau]

I'm okay with

"Hey, you have some quirks we should work on"

but not

"I'm going to make a sweeping generality about your character based on your looks and then force you to do everything that I command you to do to enhance your personal appearance so that you look like the type of guy that I wouldn't date because guys who look like you only care about themselves!"

"I Usually pick a guy less attractive."

As if we're all just standing around waiting for you to turn us into Ken dolls.

(btw. welcome to the forums!!....ignore mean people.)
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I'm curious though, aside from physical stuff, is there anything besides high/low confidence that has an adverse effect on the ladies? You know, humor, courteous, etc. What's the verdict on those things, all?

[iximisspiggyixi]

I'm currently sort of in a mood where I hate everything about guys in general.

But. Usually, I hate stupid guys, I hate overly romantic guys, and I hate guys who are like, big macho partiers.

And I hate when you try and make something really clear to a guy, and he just refuses to get it. Open your eyes, you stupid fuckers.

[Jacoby]

Yeah, you say you're a feminist, but it sounds more fascist to me.

[calereneau]

Originally Posted by Jacoby

Yeah, you say you're a feminist, but it sounds more fascist to me.

Daym!

JACOBY: 1 NEW GIRL: 0

[iximisspiggyixi]

Originally Posted by 14Lauren14

yeah i usually dont have a problem with guys because i never take our relationship as seriously as he does. i usually pick a guy less attractive then me, because it seems like he cares more about me, and he'll do stuff i tell him to do. i actually got my ex to wear tighter pants (but hey he did wear baggy ones) and wax his eyebrows ( i hate hairy eyebrows) and i think i made him look hotter. also the advantage of picking a less hot guy (i dont mean ugly, just less than you) is they dont say sexist stuff or comments against chicks because im a feminist and i hate stuff like that. the point is ladies, youll have a better time.

Christ. I mean, I'm a little picky, I'd say, but you're just like...obnoxious.

[ryan]

Originally Posted by iximisspiggyixi

I'm currently sort of in a mood where I hate everything about guys in general.

But. Usually, I hate stupid guys, I hate overly romantic guys, and I hate guys who are like, big macho partiers.

And I hate when you try and make something really clear to a guy, and he just refuses to get it. Open your eyes, you stupid fuckers.

you'll hate overly romantic guys til you date one that never even opens a door for you, then you'll bitch about having no romance

teeter totter!

[iximisspiggyixi]

Originally Posted by ryan

you'll hate overly romantic guys til you date one that never even opens a door for you, then you'll bitch about having no romance

teeter totter!

I knew you'd comment on whatever I said.

And no, I can open my own doors, thanks.

[Hazzle]

Originally Posted by Jacoby

Yeah, you say you're a feminist, but it sounds more fascist to me.

Heh. Nice one. Glad to see you've taken to welcoming the newbies in proper style too. Unlike the rest of these chummy cunts.

Cal wtf is that about working on quirks? The bitch either better accept I am what I am, or fuck off and find someone else. Quirks are often what you love most about someone. The only thing I'd accept working on is my temper, fighting and arguing and stuff, because that actually damages the relationship. But if she doesn't like certain personality quirks? She can fuck right off. Plenty more fish and all that.

Lauren, you date guys less attractive than you? But I thought Joseph Merrick was dead?!

Oh wait, I found someone who'd be perfect for you.



Lots of flaws to work on He's not less attractive than you but he might let you change stuff about him. You've got a chance, although it is slim, I'll grant you.

[iximisspiggyixi]

Originally Posted by Hazzle

Heh. Nice one. Glad to see you've taken to welcoming the newbies in proper style too. Unlike the rest of these chummy cunts.

Cal wtf is that about working on quirks? The bitch either better accept I am what I am, or fuck off and find someone else. Quirks are often what you love most about someone. The only thing I'd accept working on is my temper, fighting and arguing and stuff, because that actually damages the relationship. But if she doesn't like certain personality quirks? She can fuck right off. Plenty more fish and all that.

Lauren, you date guys less attractive than you? But I thought Joseph Merrick was dead?!

Oh wait, I found someone who'd be perfect for you.



Lots of flaws to work on He's not less attractive than you but he might let you change stuff about him. You've got a chance, although it is slim, I'll grant you.

Haha.

[calereneau]

Originally Posted by Hazzle

Cal wtf is that about working on quirks?

I said that that is understandable....don't get me wrong, I'm all for liking a person for who they are, but hating a person as who they are and changing them into who you want them to be is another thing.

Don't hate me Hazzle. I am not the enemy. THEY are!

And my name is Cale you cauk.

[ryan]

Originally Posted by iximisspiggyixi

I knew you'd comment on whatever I said.

And no, I can open my own doors, thanks.

i didn't mean the door comment literally...
the second you feel unwanted or unapreciated, you'll want that "romantic" guy. also, keep in mind the difference between romantic and clingy.

and if you say "no, that's not true...i dont want him to do things for me", you're lying to yourself :P

[iximisspiggyixi]

Originally Posted by ryan

i didn't mean the door comment literally...
the second you feel unwanted or unapreciated, you'll want that "romantic" guy. also, keep in mind the difference between romantic and clingy.

and if you say "no, that's not true...i dont want him to do things for me", you're lying to yourself :P

Lol. Yeah, I know there's a difference between romantic and clingy. I just want a balance of some sort. A guy who's appreciating but not smothering. But when I said "overly romantic", I didn't mean like...non-chivalrous. I just can't stand guys who are disgustingly cheesy and stuff.

[ryan]

Originally Posted by iximisspiggyixi

Lol. Yeah, I know there's a difference between romantic and clingy. I just want a balance of some sort. A guy who's appreciating but not smothering. But when I said "overly romantic", I didn't mean like...non-chivalrous. I just can't stand guys who are disgustingly cheesy and stuff.

cheese isn't romance...you don't like cheesy guys...you like romance. :P

[iximisspiggyixi]

Originally Posted by ryan

cheese isn't romance...you don't like cheesy guys...you like romance. :P

Ryyyyan. Must you argue with everything I say?

[ryan]

Originally Posted by iximisspiggyixi

Ryyyyan. Must you argue with everything I say?

only when you're wrong...

[Hazzle]

Originally Posted by ryan

only when you're wrong...

He's kinda got you by the gonads there. Figuratively speaking, of course.

Cheese and romance are two very different things. And like Ryan said, clingy and appreciative are different too. Wanting to spend time apart, with friends or even alone, is a positive thing, and both people should be encouraged to do it. Anything less is clingy. However being romantic (be it small gestures like little notes or big ones like horse carriage rides) is a good thing.

It shows that you appreciate the other person. As long as it's not overdone. It only becomes cheese when you lack originality and spontaneity, or do it ALL the time. Like romance would be doing something nice for Valentine's Day, like a nice meal. Cheese would be buying a tacky card, roses, singing heart cushions, chocolates, teddy bears...you get the idea.

Ryan, would you disagree that women like a guy to be a LITTLE bit of a bastard? I don't understand why, but there's definitely something to the idea that if a guy's TOO nice and TOO sweet it can just get sickening, much as if a girl's too nice and lacks ANY strength of character, I find them puketastic. Plus it always makes me suspicious.

Cale - I don't hate you man. Just be a bit stronger about standing your ground. No woman is changing me. Back off bitch.