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Old 03-10-2004, 02:40 PM   #1
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Need some advice/help....

I've been interested in this one girl in the grade above me for quite some time now. I don't see her that often throughout the day, as I have only one class with her. I try to talk to her as much as possible, in the morning before class starts, at her locker after classes end, playing tennis after school, etc, and I think we get along pretty well. Recently I went to Homecoming with her at our school, and it was a lot of fun. Afterwards, I've had this feeling of depression I can't seem to shake off. I'm constantly thinking of her. I really like her a lot, but the problem is I don't know what she thinks of me. I'm wondering whether I should bare my soul and tell her exactly how I feel and risk rejection or leave it alone and let it continue this way.

Any advice you could give me would be helpful...
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Old 03-10-2004, 02:44 PM   #2
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Risk rejection , of course , you moron :P .
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Old 03-10-2004, 03:38 PM   First Class Member KKWiki Contributer Senior Registered Member #3
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You will kick yourself if you don't take the chance.
I went through the same thing when I was in college. I never regretted letting the one who broke my heart know, nearly as much as I regretted the one I never let know.
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Old 03-10-2004, 03:56 PM   Officer #4
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Originally Posted by hasselbrad
You will kick yourself if you don't take the chance.
I went through the same thing when I was in college. I never regretted letting the one who broke my heart know, nearly as much as I regretted the one I never let know.
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well i have to agree whit hasselbrad on this one, just say you like like her
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Old 03-10-2004, 03:59 PM   #5
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I wouldn't "bare my soul" after a few dates with her. Try and keep things light and funny. If you give her too much at one time, she'll be overwhelmed and you may scare her away. Yes, women do that. Men do it too. If you I were you, I'd look for more ways to be with her, like bumping her in the hallways and saying hello or going to the movies or eating some ice cream and drinking beer or asking her to be homework buddies. Whatever you kids do for fun.

And a little bit of cockiness never hurt. Don't overdo it, but having that extra arrogance will really boost your confidence. Women will laugh at you first because they think you're moronic, but then, they'll start laughing because they really enjoy it. Example: You could call her up and ask her to do something on the spot, you and me, to the movies in 5 minutes. Alright? I'll be waiting ouside your door. And don't ask it in a question form, make it a statement like you already know she's going to say yes. Now, if she replies something lame like I have to do some homework, then reply with something cocky but not over-the-top like, Baby, I'm more fun then your homework will ever be. Come with me! And add a little baby talk, peease? (I prefer them higher pitched than your normal voice but I don't know how you do baby talk). Two things to look for: If she still says no but reschedules, she really likes you (she went out of her way) and you didnt even need to ask her. If she says yes, that means she has a high probability of liking you but still could have some doubt. If she just says no and offers nothing, then she has mixed feelings to you.

Anyway, after being with her for about a month, you may drop the question on her and ask her what she thinks of the relationship or you may gather the balls to tell her you like her. Alternatively, you could do it with subtle steps. For instance: one date you could brush her shoulders and arms. Another date you could touch her face and brush her hair with your fingers. Another date you could hold her hand. Another date you could kiss her cheeks and finally you could just grab her out of the blue and kiss her on the lips. These are steps so if she has no interest in you, she'll stop you before you reach the final step. This way, you don't have to ask her, just watch her body language.

It's hard because you omitted lots of details of your relationship with her. So I just wrote a general reply. I hope it helps.
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Old 03-10-2004, 03:38 PM   Senior Registered Member #6
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Ask her how she feels about you. Tell her how you feel about her. Simple.
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I'm not a girl, but I must say, I agree with AureaMediocritas. You won't get her if you are afraid to tell her your feelings... I've tried that situation severel times, and it works better... You are not going to feel well before you've found out how she feels. If she rejects you, you'll feel like hell for some time, but it will pass... And after it's passed, you will feel a lot better...
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Old 03-10-2004, 04:01 PM   #8
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Go for it man. You'll regret it if you don't.

And from what it sounds like, I don't think you'd lose her friendship if she rejected technically you don't have anything to lose here.
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Old 06-10-2004, 08:26 AM   Officer #9
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Or you could always ask her friends. Most likely, she'd be somewhat guarded, when it comes to revealing her feelings to you, and more often than not (though it is rare), she'll be somewhat taken aback by your sudden expression of affection. If you have the guts, then you should ask her somewhere private - like walking her home or after studying together or summat - so she knows that 1) it's important to you, and 2) neither of you can cause a public disturbance.

Or if not, ask her friends. Even if you don't hang around them, if they recognize you, then they know something is up. If she's guarded, there is still at least one or two people she trusts with her feelings (her girl mates), and those one or two are the persons to ask. One could consider this option rather cowardly, but I think it's a rather easy step to take. One, you're not talking to her, so butterflies won't necessarily start up. Two, at least you'll find out where you stand; if they're trustworthy and know you're being forthright and sincere, then they'll have the decency to tell you the truth (instead of being bitches). Three, if you haven't ingratiated yourself to her friends, that's the chance to do so, and one knows that a good way to a girl's heart is through her friends.

But whatever. Like many personalities, no matter how much advice one gives to another, that other will still do whatever they want.
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Old 06-10-2004, 07:38 PM   Attended an OMGWTFKKWBBQ! Senior Registered Member #10
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I think you should tell her, like everyone else has said here you would regret it if you didn't. If she doesn't feel the same for you she would probably feel flattered. I would atleast. If she doesn't have feelings for you It doesn't have to be because of you, it could be just because she doesn't know you enough.
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