My...er...'friend'

Luthien · 16-09-2004, 03:50 AM

OK, I need some serious help. Well, as some of you know from before, I've been homeschooled for the past three years, and went back to public school this year, freshman in highschool. Well, my 'best friend' has been completely ignoring me for half the summer, and all school year. She's been hanging out with a bunch of 'popular' people, who hate me, and has been dissing me behind my back. I mean, I walk into the bathroom the other day at lunch and she and her evil friends are re-putting on their make up, dissing me because I'm a "stupid jerk, really...doesn't even think Orlando Bloom or Viggo Mortensen are the reason Lord of the Rings is so cool...does she really think half the people would LIKE the pointless thing without hot guys?"
I mean, I was the one who INTRODUCED HER to LOTR in the first place! She used to be obsessed like me, but now is just another Viggo fangirl...I'm really sad, because I'm in, like, three of her classes, and she hasn't said a word to me. not so much as 'hi' or 'what's up?' or anything...

and, get this. In theater, which we're in together, we did this thing with partners, (she and I weren't partners) but over half the things her partner said she said, were my direct words, straight from my mouth.
"...Jules says that she wants to be an actress, and says that's been her secret wish forever...She likes acting trageties, and her dream role would be Juliet, from Romeo and Juliet, or Maria, from West Side Story..."
and so on, and so on, stealing almost every little bit from me, and looking directly at me, with a FRICKIN SMILE ON HER FACE!!!!!!!

So, I've been ignoring her too, but here's the problem: yesterday, she randomly came up to me, and said "Hey, Ing. Can I come over and see Athena?" (my new kitten)
I really don't want her to, but she lives down the street, and I just feel really mean saying 'no'... I sort of want to break all contact, because of what she's done to me (it's not just ignoring, she's been two-faces for a couple years now) but I don't want to be mean...I'm just not the kind of person to say "No way, bitch. You've been double-crossing me for two years, dissing me behind my back, and ignoring me all school year. So budge off, and leave me alone."
So..um..what should I do?

Leonie · 16-09-2004, 07:00 AM

Why don't you let her come over, chat a bit, and who knows, you might even be able to resolve a couple of things. If she's been your friend for a long time it's worth trying to save the friendship, isn't it?

I think the best thing you could do is be honest with her. Tell her that you get the impression she's been ignoring you, and ask her why. If she lies, or is mean to you then at least you've tried... Where's the harm in that?

Based on your post things couldn't get any worse between the two of you. Why not try to make 'em better then

duckula · 16-09-2004, 09:37 AM

I advocate taking her outside and giving her the beating she deserves.

CollisionStar · 16-09-2004, 12:25 PM

Ouch.

Luthien · 16-09-2004, 04:15 PM

Leonie: very good idea, I think I'll try! Yea, things really couldn't get worse... But here's somewhat of a different problem, all mixed in with this one..
Well, we both have the same English teacher, just different times, but the other day we had to write an inclass essay, and mine was chosen for an example, so she was telling everyone that 'the first one, the really good one is my best friend's essay!'
so her 'popular' friend got mad, so now she's trying to make her be friends again, meaning saying bad things about me, and trying to get me to be friends again, meaning saying bad things about this other girl.
I mean, she lies so much I don't really know when she's lying and when she's not, so I don't even know who it is she really wants to be her friend, and who she just wants to pretend to be friends with...

Duckula: now why do I get the feeling you haven't changed a bit?

CollisionStar: yep. major ouch.

Leonie · 16-09-2004, 04:19 PM

Dunno how old she is, but she sounds like a normal insecure teenager to me. People are like that. They lie, and they're mean, just because they're afraid that if they don't, people will lie and be mean to them.

You however, choose not to take part in this pathetic roleplay. Good for you

Neither did I. It's not gonna be easy, it wasn't for me anyway, but at least the friends you have when you're you are *real* friends, instead of number two and three on the list of most popular girls that would actually like to be number one.

PhoeniX · 16-09-2004, 05:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Leonie

Why don't you let her come over, chat a bit, and who knows, you might even be able to resolve a couple of things. If she's been your friend for a long time it's worth trying to save the friendship, isn't it?

Thats right Its happened to me and it worked then

Leonie · 16-09-2004, 05:26 PM

Look at me being old and wise

It's true though, if she's been your friend for a long time it's worth fighting for her. There's no losing there. If you don't do anything you're going to lose her. If you talk to her you might be able to sort things out. You can only improve the current situation

Good luck!

frodo1511 · 16-09-2004, 11:06 PM

Invite her for Pie.
Pie cures all.

Dyce_Blue · 17-09-2004, 02:24 AM

My "best friend" from 9th grade used to steal crap out of my backpack. One time he came to my house and tried to beat me up. One time he wrote on the back of my neck in history class.

Long story short: I made the basketball team and he didnt. I am going to UH, he is going to UH-D (a small community college-type offspring of UH).

Nice people eventually finish first.

16-09-2004, 03:50 AM	#1
Luthien Newcomer Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 18	My...er...'friend' OK, I need some serious help. Well, as some of you know from before, I've been homeschooled for the past three years, and went back to public school this year, freshman in highschool. Well, my 'best friend' has been completely ignoring me for half the summer, and all school year. She's been hanging out with a bunch of 'popular' people, who hate me, and has been dissing me behind my back. I mean, I walk into the bathroom the other day at lunch and she and her evil friends are re-putting on their make up, dissing me because I'm a "stupid jerk, really...doesn't even think Orlando Bloom or Viggo Mortensen are the reason Lord of the Rings is so cool...does she really think half the people would LIKE the pointless thing without hot guys?" I mean, I was the one who INTRODUCED HER to LOTR in the first place! She used to be obsessed like me, but now is just another Viggo fangirl...I'm really sad, because I'm in, like, three of her classes, and she hasn't said a word to me. not so much as 'hi' or 'what's up?' or anything... and, get this. In theater, which we're in together, we did this thing with partners, (she and I weren't partners) but over half the things her partner said she said, were my direct words, straight from my mouth. "...Jules says that she wants to be an actress, and says that's been her secret wish forever...She likes acting trageties, and her dream role would be Juliet, from Romeo and Juliet, or Maria, from West Side Story..." and so on, and so on, stealing almost every little bit from me, and looking directly at me, with a FRICKIN SMILE ON HER FACE!!!!!!! So, I've been ignoring her too, but here's the problem: yesterday, she randomly came up to me, and said "Hey, Ing. Can I come over and see Athena?" (my new kitten) I really don't want her to, but she lives down the street, and I just feel really mean saying 'no'... I sort of want to break all contact, because of what she's done to me (it's not just ignoring, she's been two-faces for a couple years now) but I don't want to be mean...I'm just not the kind of person to say "No way, bitch. You've been double-crossing me for two years, dissing me behind my back, and ignoring me all school year. So budge off, and leave me alone." So..um..what should I do?

16-09-2004, 12:25 PM	#4
CollisionStar Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Hometown is Houston, going to school in San Antonio Posts: 92	Ouch. __________________ -+Sister+- -+I'm Not Much A Poet+- -+But A Criminal+-

16-09-2004, 11:06 PM	#9
frodo1511 Pin Dick Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 2,400	Invite her for Pie. Pie cures all. __________________ Believe...

17-09-2004, 02:24 AM	#10
Dyce_Blue Yellow at Heart Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston Posts: 537	Fiends... My "best friend" from 9th grade used to steal crap out of my backpack. One time he came to my house and tried to beat me up. One time he wrote on the back of my neck in history class. Long story short: I made the basketball team and he didnt. I am going to UH, he is going to UH-D (a small community college-type offspring of UH). Nice people eventually finish first. __________________ It's been awhile...

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16-09-2004, 07:00 AM	#2
Leonie Elle Join Date: May 2003 Location: Nottingham Posts: 2,631	Why don't you let her come over, chat a bit, and who knows, you might even be able to resolve a couple of things. If she's been your friend for a long time it's worth trying to save the friendship, isn't it? I think the best thing you could do is be honest with her. Tell her that you get the impression she's been ignoring you, and ask her why. If she lies, or is mean to you then at least you've tried... Where's the harm in that? Based on your post things couldn't get any worse between the two of you. Why not try to make 'em better then

16-09-2004, 09:37 AM	#3
duckula Nobler in the mind. Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 1,214	I advocate taking her outside and giving her the beating she deserves.

16-09-2004, 04:15 PM	#5
Luthien Newcomer Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 18	Leonie: very good idea, I think I'll try! Yea, things really couldn't get worse... But here's somewhat of a different problem, all mixed in with this one.. Well, we both have the same English teacher, just different times, but the other day we had to write an inclass essay, and mine was chosen for an example, so she was telling everyone that 'the first one, the really good one is my best friend's essay!' so her 'popular' friend got mad, so now she's trying to make her be friends again, meaning saying bad things about me, and trying to get me to be friends again, meaning saying bad things about this other girl. I mean, she lies so much I don't really know when she's lying and when she's not, so I don't even know who it is she really wants to be her friend, and who she just wants to pretend to be friends with... Duckula: now why do I get the feeling you haven't changed a bit? CollisionStar: yep. major ouch.

16-09-2004, 04:19 PM	#6
Leonie Elle Join Date: May 2003 Location: Nottingham Posts: 2,631	Dunno how old she is, but she sounds like a normal insecure teenager to me. People are like that. They lie, and they're mean, just because they're afraid that if they don't, people will lie and be mean to them. You however, choose not to take part in this pathetic roleplay. Good for you Neither did I. It's not gonna be easy, it wasn't for me anyway, but at least the friends you have when you're you are real friends, instead of number two and three on the list of most popular girls that would actually like to be number one.

16-09-2004, 05:26 PM	#8
Leonie Elle Join Date: May 2003 Location: Nottingham Posts: 2,631	Look at me being old and wise It's true though, if she's been your friend for a long time it's worth fighting for her. There's no losing there. If you don't do anything you're going to lose her. If you talk to her you might be able to sort things out. You can only improve the current situation Good luck!

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