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Old 19-08-2004, 01:43 PM   #1
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a relationship arguement......

this is an arguement that has been going on between my roomates and i for the last few weeks. last night we had it out again my one roommate, his gf, and i are all on the same side.

here it is.

roommate john says that no matter what happens in his life he will always take his mother's word first.

we replied with the fact that even when he gets married, if he will still take his mother's side over his wife's

he said yes

we laughed hard.

he says that no one will ever love you as much as your mother and we don't know what his mother has done for him and whatever.

this is true mothers do provide a love that no other can replace, and mothers do make a lot of sacrifices for their children, typically. but that is their job. you form a completely different love with the one you choose to spend your entire life with.

we are not saying never consider anything your mother says or recommends but seriously.....anyone.......who are you gonna side with when it comes down to a disagreement between your spouse and your mother?

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Old 19-08-2004, 02:49 PM   #2
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HA. That's such bullshit. What a mommy's boy.

Sorry, I'm a tad mean.

But no, really - I'm very close with my mom, but once I'm married and am making a new life of my own with someone, my mom's word isn't going to come first. My husband's word will, because he's the one who I live with and ultimately will face most consequences with.

Your friend is a dumbass if he can't see that.
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Old 19-08-2004, 03:07 PM   Senior Registered Member #3
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He should marry his mother if he thinks that way. Perhaps that's legal in Kentucky or Tennessee.



Seriously, the dude needs to realize that his mother is not all knowing. He's confused about this whole mother's love bit.
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Old 19-08-2004, 04:48 PM   Officer #4
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Hmm. Freud would have a field day with this.

But, seriously. No one can ever love you as much as your mother? I simply don't feel that that statement rings true. As I see it, your spouse is obligated to (and usually does) love you just as much, if not more, than your parents have/do. I mean, think about it. A grown man, married, with children, dies suddenly. Sure his parents are going to be horribly shaken by this, but don't you think it's reasonable for his wife, the person he shares his adult life with, to be all the more saddened and upset? To me, it's more tragic for someone to lose a wife or a husband than for a mother to lose her grown child. I know the example I'm using is kind of far-fetched, but I'm just trying to prove a point (and probably not very well).

Bottom line, your friend's being ridiculous. He sounds like a young guy, though (is he?). His opinion on this matter will most likely change once he meets that special girl that he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
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Old 19-08-2004, 07:08 PM   #5
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Bottom line, your friend's being ridiculous. He sounds like a young guy, though (is he?). His opinion on this matter will most likely change once he meets that special girl that he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
no he's older than i am, he is 21 and my other roommate and his gf are 20 and i am 19 and we are trying to tell him the same things that you are all saying.

right now we are making shit money and he's out in a year with no college education to get a decent job, maybe he'll go to school when he's out but i'm not sure.

but yeah we all definitely agree on this one.
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Having been brought up by Korean parents, I have to say, there is noone that loves you quite like your mother. Others will give you different types of love, but there is something in Asian culture which states that asian mothers will do absolutely anything for their kids. Make their kids become the best, and do the best, at detriment to themselves.
I love my mother to extremes. However, to be honest, she doesn't know everything. She's a little outdated in certain things. So you could say I don't take her words first, instead, I take her concerns first. I've found that there is a reason for parental worry. Especially when you fuck up as much as I do :P
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Is your friend majoring in something that will earn him a lot of money? I sure hope so, because he's going to need a lot of money to pay the divorce attorneys. Parental meddling, even when you don't agree with what the parent is saying is poison enough. Holding you mother's (or father's) opinion in higher regard than your spouse's is a Black Mamba in a suitcase full of money. Sorry, but I just saw Kill Bill-Vol. 2 last night.
Your friend is in for a world of hurt if he thinks he can continue with that attitude, unless he mail orders a bride.
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Old 06-09-2004, 01:29 AM   #8
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My mother is a control freak. She wants to control every aspect of my life. I already chose my girlfriend over my mother. Shes a psychopathic bitch and I can't wait to be shot of her. All that "fruit of thy womb" stuff is bullshit.
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Old 07-09-2004, 03:23 AM   #9
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I've got a friend whos mom is a bit like that, not quite to that extreme, but its getting there.

Anyway, if you let your mom rule your life, you are fucked, go to her for advice, but don't choose your MOM over your girlfriend, how does that make your gf feel? Worthless, so in other words, live your own life, its too short not to.

I sound like a twat, don't I? :icon_frow
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Old 08-09-2004, 08:59 AM   #10
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Lol right on!
But I get sick of lying all the time. I have to lie to see my gf. Mam doesn't see that I love her y'see. I'm not the way she wanted me to be.
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