I agree with Leonie. Its not all about lists of preferences. For my mind, its all about how things go when you spend time with someone.
With my girlfriend, I feel completely at ease. We can cuddle and be all cutesy, we can talk for hours, and we can sit in silence together without a moment being awkward. For me, that is the mark of a special relationship.
The greatest delight is to mark one's enemy, prepare everything, avenge oneself thoroughly, and then go to sleep.