What do girls enjoy on their dates fun at a pub, nice restaraunt etc.
What has worked for you and what has not.
also how do you ask a member of the opposite sex
(same in certain cases) out on a date
my advice is that if it's going to be a first date, don't make it so common and boring (ie, fancy dinner, movie, etc). you definitely dont want fancy because you don't know her that well (or at all). at a movie, you wont get to talk to her and figure out if you even like her.
make it fun...perhaps an activity? if you're good at pool, teach her how to play pool at a pool hall. or go putt putting. SOMETHING. show her you're a tad spontaneous and fun.
and just a few hours ago i asked someone out. i mentioned that i was going to be at a japanese restuarant/bar on a specific date and time and that i'd love for her to join me.
you have to have a date and time already picked out. don't say "can i take you out sometime?". thats no good. say something like "i'd like for you to join me at <place>...how is <time> on <date>?"
all in all, you need to appear confident and not desperate. easier said than done, i know, but its solid, successful advice.
Therefore, the definition of a "date" should be the first step. Once you define whether you sleep together, then how you spend the earlier part of the evening is relatively more expensive or important...
So if you want to go out with that particular lady, you can, and she is a fantastic dancer and conversationalist; so you will have a great time, but it will not be a "date".'
If you are asking how to turn "an evening together" into a "date"; that is a question that is only answerable for that individual situation. If what you are asking is Don Juan Techniques, go F$%# yourself. But if what you want is to learn how to "have a good time" while you are out with a female, I suspect that all you need to know is that you should ask her. She'll tell you if you ask her.
I do like Ryan's comment that you should ask her to go to a "particular event at a particular time"... Anything else would not count. Forinstance, how would you feel about being asked to have lunch with a male friend? Coffee? A night out at the pub? And how would it change when you walked into the pub and found it was full of "gay" couples dancing? He was trying to "date" you, but you were blissfully unaware that a sex game was going on. That's the difference between "going out" and "going out on a date".
I suspect that you should actually be able to talk to the lady before you try to take them out and bed them...
#1 biggest mistake made - overly flirting. Be subtle...make that person WANT to get to know you. I enjoy doing the "eye flirt," get caught looking at the person...not checking our their arse or chest...their EYES, SMILE, FACE, HAIR are what you should look at. Just last week I stole glances, got caught a few times, at a very beautiful girl when I went into the Mazda dealership for a quote, when I went back to confirm my order I caught HER stealing glances my way...I'll be in their later this week to get my car serviced...who knows...I might have a date this weekend.
#2 NEVER EVER TALK ABOUT EXES - they're your exes, keep them out of it. You're getting to know the other person...make small talk...smile...look them in the eyes. You can glean a lot from a person by watching their eyes, why do you think poker players wear sunglasses.
#3 Be confident not cocky/arrogant - When you're confident in your convo abilities, flirtations, and other activities the other person will believe you. If you over-do it and come off cocky it's a MAJOR turn-off. Confidence is key, but just like flirting it needs to be subtle.
Place for a date - coffee shops/pub for the Euros are great if you don't know the person, this allows for some get-to-know you talking...just make sure it's not a rowdy place full of distractions. If you know the person well and want to make an impression - cook for them, OMG there is NOTHING I love more than having someone take the time to cook for me...it makes me feel special, just make sure you find out if they're veggie/vegan & their likes/dislikes...if they question just say you're trying to pick the place to eat.
Best of luck young grasshopper - let me know if you get your date.
A "Date" is something special. Not just "taking a girl out for coffee and paying for her coffee..." If you want to get credit for a "Date", it's going to cost more than $3.25 at Starbucks; and it's going to take more than an hour.
A week in Acapulco would qualify; as would a show in Las Vegas, (unless you live in Las Vegas.) Try again. A date is trying to get beyond the things you say over coffee. Perhaps a set of ballroom dancing classes would qualify depending on how you set that up, but not "meeting at the dancehall to dance".
You've heard the expression "cheap date"? Well, coffee house posturing doesn't cut it. Ask a woman whether she would dress up to go to a coffee house. If she wouldn't dress special, it isn't a date unless you have to board a 747 to get there. Going clamming in New England would qualify, if you were from Texas; but not if you lived on Cape Cod.
Back to defining your terms. All those things, (including a week of ballooning, and being her regular dance partner every Friday night for almost a year) were not dates. A date is something special. AND you must have gone through all of those other steps long before you go on a date.
Believe me when I say that the women I would want to date would never in her whole life have been called a slut. I know several strippers who have PhDs; and nobody ever thinks they are sluts, either. Just try to woo a stripper with a cup of coffee... :fencing:
And for an example. A Movie
Two tickets to the movie $20.00
Gas to get to Albuquerque & Back 140miles @ 10mpg at $2.55/gal=$35.70
Meal (since you have >2 hours driving time+2 hr movie) $25.00
Keepsake (soundtrack or whatever) $20.00
Or, you could spend an evening locally in a bar, and I suspect (never having done this myself) that would also cost $100.00
Or, a concert (Involves driving to Albuquerque again) Santana evening cost more than $100.00 and convinced me that the CD is immensely better.
Or, You could take her to one of the Casinos, (around Albuquerque) and God only knows how much that would cost.
Comments from Tina...
Subject: RE: Clearly your ears must be burning...
From: "Sullivan, Tina"
To: "David Wade"
Hmm. This is the first I've seen of this. I am NOT not talking to you.
Also, you've always talked about me with or without my permission, so
why change now?
Wrote the rest of this before this line, but I've gotta go to class.
Back to the topic. Read and feel free to cut anything out if you post
>From: David Wade [mailto:djw]
>Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 7:00 AM
>To: Sullivan, Tina
>out of your shell by explaining to these kids what I'm talking
>about. Assuming you still feel the same way about this.
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