PDA

View Full Version : Girl at School


Dimwit1600
29-12-2004, 07:30 AM
There's a girl at my school that I like. She's a Sophomore, which would make her a year older than me. I only met her this year and we only have one class together, so I don't really know her, but I used to talk to her in that class everyday. Now we don't really talk because she is in a different "group" (group meaning people you sit with and help each other with your homework; my geometry teacher has issues just to let you know). How do I become a better friend and get to know her more. Do I just start saying "hi" in the hallway and take it from there. I don't want to sound like an idiot and act like I'm obsessing over her. But I like her and I want to be her friend so I can take it from there.

SimplyKnightley
29-12-2004, 07:39 AM
try talking to her again and ask her out. that's the only way :phone:

Dimwit1600
29-12-2004, 08:12 AM
I can't just ask her out. I barely know her. The chances of her liking me as of now, are remote. I have to get her to like me, but I'm not real good at that. I don't know what would make her like me. She's very smart and take my word for it, she is really hot. She is really sweet and has never said anything nasty to me. She seems comfortable talking to me, but that could be because she doesn't feel the way I do. Anyway, thanks. I wish it were that simple to just ask her out.

ryan
29-12-2004, 10:45 AM
you have a class with her...run up to her after you do something in class one day (test, quiz, or anything out of the ordinary) and ask her something about it that's light and general-conversation oriented. then you can mix in personal details..reintroduce yourself or whatever....open the lines of communication.

Jacoby
29-12-2004, 03:47 PM
you have a class with her...run up to her after you do something in class one day (test, quiz, or anything out of the ordinary) and ask her something about it that's light and general-conversation oriented. then you can mix in personal details..reintroduce yourself or whatever....open the lines of communication.

Ryan's pro. I would take this advice. It's usually what I would do in this situation.

I'm not too sure about the random "hello"s in the hallway. My friend tried this last year with teh girls he liked and it didn't go over so well. Sometimes you can come off as weird. I'd say hello to her if you were the only ones in the hallway, but when it's in between periods, it can seem desperate.

Flightfreak
29-12-2004, 04:28 PM
Something that has worked for me in the past and I still use is: *smiles and winks*.
Smile at her, every time you pass her, not a huge smile just a subtle one, we don’t want her to think that you are making fun of her!
Smile at her every time you get eye contact and even wink at her if you get the chance. I don’t mean the "big guy who thinks he can get everyone" wink!
Just a subtle "hello there" wink in combination with a nice smile.
Say "hi" to her if she is alone, most girls like guys who take the initiative!
I mean it shouldn’t really be a problem, because you already chatted with her.
Try to be as natural as possible, try to feel secure, it will make you look secure.
The whole idea behind this technique is to give the girl a warm secure feeling.
That's of course if you are after a girl who wants a nice boyfriend because not all girls want a nice one!
Strange but true :icon_err:

Anyway good luck, and keep us informed :D

GuinevereLover
29-12-2004, 05:47 PM
That is the best piece of advice that I can give you, have confidence in yourself and when you see her strike up a conversation,it's best if you talk to her when she is on her own that way you don't have to be nervous about talking to her in front of her friends, start chatting and take it from there!
Good Luck

JackYang
30-12-2004, 01:39 AM
You can always try and get to know her friends.

ryan
30-12-2004, 02:29 AM
Ryan's pro. I would take this advice. It's usually what I would do in this situation.

I'm not too sure about the random "hello"s in the hallway. My friend tried this last year with teh girls he liked and it didn't go over so well. Sometimes you can come off as weird. I'd say hello to her if you were the only ones in the hallway, but when it's in between periods, it can seem desperate.

yes, you dont force the first hello unless you first lock eyes or something.
only do it if there's something to first talk about and break the ice, like something big going on in that class or whatever other little high school gossip that might be floating around.

backlash117
30-12-2004, 03:11 AM
I don't have the best of luck with women so im not going to pretend to give you awesome advice. But what has worked for me once or twice is in class creat a situation to be near her and be like o hey "her name" then go i haven't talked to you since what ever class and then try to continue from there. Good luck dude. And don't just don't do it other wise you will hate yourself believe me i have don't that so many times before. :icon_err:

Melvin
30-12-2004, 03:34 PM
Ryan seems to be giving great advice. As Jacoby said, "Ryan's a pro". I'd definitely follow his advice.

Dyce_Blue
30-12-2004, 08:46 PM
Just don't let her take you down a destructive path of paralyzing self-doubt and schizophrenic paranoia. I have known girls to do that...

otherwise, good luck. ;)

MeggieHoops
30-12-2004, 10:22 PM
Ryan seems to be giving great advice. As Jacoby said, "Ryan's a pro". I'd definitely follow his advice.

Lmao. Yep. Ryan's a pro with the ladies, all right. :icon_err:

No, in all actuality, Ryan's advice was good. Just find something general and school related to chat to her about and move on up from there.

ryan
31-12-2004, 12:33 AM
Ryan seems to be giving great advice. As Jacoby said, "Ryan's a pro". I'd definitely follow his advice.

i'll openly admit it's much easier to give someone good advice than follow someone's good advice. as the cliche goes, easier said than done.

ryan
31-12-2004, 12:34 AM
Lmao. Yep. Ryan's a pro with the ladies, all right. :icon_err:

i'm not getting lured into another argument.

acliff
31-12-2004, 12:44 AM
i'm not getting lured into another argument.

But we so love watching you lose....

ryan
31-12-2004, 01:04 AM
But we so love watching you lose....

lose?
thanks for the laugh cliff ;)

Ranman
02-01-2005, 03:21 AM
Ask her for some advice about improving something about you. Most girls I know love to give advice. Then in a month give her flowers and candy for valentines day.

SimplyKnightley
03-01-2005, 01:00 AM
any update? u talk to her yet?

breathein
03-01-2005, 04:04 AM
Just be calm, conversation, and read her body language to tell if she is uncomfortable or not talk, and be confident :)

JackYang
03-01-2005, 04:07 AM
And don't try to force things or becoming too desperate.

MikeKnick04
06-01-2005, 12:13 AM
Older women huh
That is a toughie
From past experience, I got a couple of tips

1. Hello's and Smiles make you a casual friend

2. Logic talking is easy, like ryan's (talk about the test), those convo's will die hard and fast if you have never talked with her before. It will be so brief that you heart will still be thumping from first seeing her. It sounds like most of your convo's were like this before huh...over/gone/forgotten

3. You need to be confident, this is key as fu<k, you won't get sh!t if you are not. My quick tip, before school, listen to 'pump up' music, go to school and be confident. {like if someone cuts you off, tell them to get the fu<k outta the way, and then the bird with a quick laugh jokingly}

4. Practice, man you need to talk to other girl's emotions and sh!t. Logic is boring. Practice makes perfect.

5. In HS you gonna need a car, money, and skills to get any hot girl above you. That is the truth. All my experience has taught me the loud mouth di<kheads get the hot ones, cause girl like an adventurous guy. Go Party, that will get you a couple steps past the 'front door'.


Hope this shit ain't too long, but fu<k this is complicated, 4 years in HS taught me well, in College, girls are kicking down my door in allotta cases, and I am not 'hot' by any means, but 'they love me for me'

Good Luck and KICK *** MAN! Get the girl and drop this forum from your list of things to do....

c ya

MAVARICK
07-05-2005, 06:45 AM
Hi there. Try asking for some book or something from her and then return it after one or two days. u see u'll get two chances to talk to her. ALL THE BEST

SeattleGirl
06-05-2006, 10:08 AM
~it's a complicated question to talk about in fact ~ if she doesnt have a boyfriend,you shouldnt be hesitate then ! do anything proper .

dave
20-05-2006, 08:39 AM
When I was a freshman, I was 14. Most other freshmen were 15. A Sophomore girl would probably have been 16. No way a 14 year old guy was going to be able to date a 16 year old girl.

There were some 16 year old freshmen. Very slow learners. Freshmen are sometimes only four feet tall. Sixteen year old ladies are sometimes five foot eight.

Why don't you wait awhile before pushing so hard? You are right in the start of the worst three or four years for being "in love", but the absolute best three or four years for dating. Rest easy, kiss the girls, write poems, dance alot, things will happen. Probably not with this particular woman (for a long time, though she could come around.) Just relax. Examine why you think she is so attractive to you. Find someone like that who isn't older than you.

Girls at that age are so much more mature than guys. Then the Girls sort of take a huge leap backwards... They're easier to trap then. You can have your girl, but not now, get some practice in first.

Ranman
20-05-2006, 11:02 AM
Is that when you met Wilma?

Nice topic to bump, Dimwitt16 hasn't visited the forums in over a year
I kind of doubt she is gonna read this

dave
20-05-2006, 11:45 AM
Is that when you met Wilma?
<snip> Dimwitt16 hasn't visited the forums in over a year <snip>
Sorry about that. I didn't know that Dimwitt16 was a girl. I don't have any idea how a woman could become friends (or more than friends) with another woman.

And I don't know any Wilma. I've talked on this board about Roberta (my then-wife, probably, my only wife) and Tina. I met Tina in 1984. I'd have been 40 or so. (I suspect you meant Tina. Unless you meant Wilma Flintstone, who intrigued me much earlier... How could Fred have gotten so lucky?)

Hazzle
20-05-2006, 01:39 PM
Sorry about that. I didn't know that Dimwitt16 was a girl. I don't have any idea how a woman could become friends (or more than friends) with another woman.

To be fair, I don't see anything on this thread to suggest Dimwitt16 was a girl. Though this is in the girl's section this particular board is open to both genders.

That said...if you don't know how a woman could become more than friends with another woman you clearly haven't been watching enough porn...

Swordsman
20-05-2006, 06:28 PM
Just go for the win man. I went out with a sophmore this year, i'm still 14 and she's still 16. You just gotta be yourself.

Pygmalion
26-05-2006, 01:49 PM
Just do something un-embarassing to get her attention. I fancied a girl a year older than me in high school, then she joined choir where I cut siiiiiiick (Australian slang: "was awesome") and we dated for a year and a half before I realsied she was a psycho and dumped her sorry ass woooo.